Psychotherapist, existential analyst, body-oriented therapist and trauma therapist, international business owner

[Let's get to know each other]

About me

university degrees

modalities in psychotherapy

My path lies on an intersection of business, psychology, spirituality and academic knowledge.
I help people and projects to rise above their routine work, and move towards scaling and growth. When I work with business owners and upper management we focus on tuning into the inner strengths and overcoming fears, limitations, repetitive patterns and limiting believes in order to grow and succeed. All that helps them to arrive to a better level of authenticity, clarity, inner sovereignty, and create more impact while building a successful business.

10+

years living abroad

hours of individual supervision

30000+

hours of training

years of individual psychotherapy

[Integrative approach]

education

Elena Romanchenko (Russia)

Biodynamics and Bodynamics (USA)

Arnold Mindell (USA)

Bert Hellinger (Austria)

Alfried Längle (Austria)

Raja Selvam (London)

My mission

Emotions are an important part of mindfulness and awareness, through which we can shape the external reality as we desire, as it is all based on our inner perception.

My mission is to assist successful and thoughtful people in managing their emotional and personal lives as well as their inner life with the same level of skills that they apply in creating and managing their business and external results.

[after]

A life built on stability: emotions are easily recognized and managed, chosen responses boost self-confidence, and decisions finally lead to the achievement of desired goals and plans. Inner chaos has given way to calm, and the focus is on creating a life from a place of inner balance adn satisfaction.

Living in a constant state of inner turmoil: waking up anxious, struggling to make decisions and take responsibility, moving through emotional ups and downs, feeling that control is an illusion, and carrying the burden of excessive responsibility with a deep inner sense of loneliness — all just to stay afloat.

[before]

[Opportunities for you]

Services

In-depth psycho-emotional work at the intersection of psychotherapy, strategic thinking, spiritual transformation, and systematic analysis.

i. one-on-one consultations

An Introduction to Transformation.
Format: 3 to 6 hours of in-depth, face-to-face work, with the after the session follow-up support and personal contact, advised specialists and a road map for thosw who prefer moving at their own pace.

iI. In-depth individual analysis

A sacred tool for awakening, originating in ancient India and Tibet, designed as a roadmap for the consciousness  — allows to answer any question or request and get an action plan.

iII. lila (personal or group of 3-4 people)

In-depth work to resolve personal issues, conflicts and communicational challenges and create successful system that allows better performance of the team and business

iV. Seminars (personal for C level & groups)

An in-depth program designed for those who want to go beyond simply “recharging” — and instead reach a new level of resilience, clarity, and effectiveness while staying deeply aligned with the Self.

V. Corporate and personal retreats

A long-term commitment for those who want more than just to "figure things out" — They want to go a long distance to achieve their goals while having the support of an expert.

VI. support (personal & or team)

How to Choose the TUNE FOR Your Adult Life: Learning to Accept Yourself Not Despite, but In Spite Of

[Useful Articles]

Articles

How to Turn Pain into Strength: On Freedom of Choice, Responsibility, and the Nature of the Human Spirit

A syndrome of postponed life: "Once I have ..., I’ll be able ...", how we delay or living the life we have

Where do We Come From: epigenetics, Karma, inherited Patterns, and Scenarios that are Passed Down Generations

Where did the strength go? Why have I lost my energy?

How to Turn Pain into Strength: On Freedom of Choice, Responsibility, and the Nature of the Human Spirit

What is society so often focused on? Precisely on reshaping a person’s memory so that they can no longer make free choices. Because a free person doesn’t need advertisements, shopping, gifts, fancy cars, or houses.

A free person needs growth; they need the opportunity to develop their spirit, soul, and personality. This is a trinity: body, spirit, and soul. Through our soul and our body, we manifest the spirit that is the primary cause of the creation of the universe.

But what matters isn’t even whether it’s fair or not; what matters is understanding what your destiny looks like, whether you agree with it or not. It’s important to always remember that it’s not how others treat you that defines you, but how you respond to it.

But no one has taken away people’s freedom of expression.

We respond to pain with love, to rudeness with forgiveness, and to cruelty with kindness, care, and tenderness, thereby reducing the amount of malice and darkness in the world through our own light, transforming that energy into something more constructive.

People have lost the desire to make an effort and to transform, through themselves, the natural world around them—the world that surrounds them.

Your life may be utterly cruel, and the situation you find yourself in may be utterly parasitic. People are different; we are born into different circumstances, go through different experiences, and these experiences either make us better people or turn us into animals—cruel beings who give in only to their weaknesses and fears, desires and needs.

Why aren’t there any Jesuses, Buddhas, Muhammads, or Mahatmas born among us? Why aren’t there any prophets?

People have the freedom to choose, and when people who bring you love and light come into your life, they simply remind you once again of that choice. Through them, God/the Universe reminds you once again that you have the power to choose.

They remind you that life is diverse, that you have freedom. You choose how to express yourself, who you want to be, what to bring into the world, and what to give to others.

Many great figures were born into difficult circumstances, grew up with parents who had nothing to offer them, and went on to become great figures. Why?

Why is it that one person has alcoholic parents but grows up to be a great inventor and a wonderful person by nature, while another person has alcoholic parents and grows up to be an alcoholic? Often, it is the person themselves who makes the choice; they decide what to do with their life and how to live it.

But it’s entirely up to us how we navigate this life experience. It’s up to each person to decide for themselves.

The world is a mirror, and man is its creator.

But when we forget that we have the freedom to choose how to express ourselves and what to create from what we have been given, we lose our power.

A man does the same thing. He takes a tree and builds a house from it. He sows seeds and grows fruit.

We transform what is given to us. That is our essence as human beings. We are the point of bifurcation, the turning point, where whatever a person touches or whatever passes through a person is reborn.

A man gives a woman his seed, and she gives birth to a child from it—this is how Nature works within a person; it is not even the woman who gives birth, but Nature itself within her. If you give a woman bare walls, she will create a cozy atmosphere within them, which you will call a home.

If it weren’t for us, life would remain harsh, dirty, dark, and cruel.
People are the only force capable of transforming this world into something new. We take what we’ve been given—the energy that exists—and transform it into something entirely different, imbuing it with our conscious presence.

It’s like in Orthodox Christianity: “If someone strikes you on one cheek, turn to him the other also, for they do not know what they are doing.” Forgive them, because they do not know what they are doing, but you understand the meaning of their mistakes and the gravity of their omissions.

You’ve been met with insincerity as a result of your own actions. You’ve been met with insincerity as a result of your own mistakes—perhaps in a past life, or perhaps in this one. But it’s always your own doing, and it’s always deserved.

Everything in the world is always fair.

How to Choose the TUNE FOR Your Adult Life: Learning to Accept Yourself Not Despite, but In Spite Of

Some people just need to have a good relationship with themselves, their family, their friends, and life in general.

Of course, it’s wonderful and rewarding that my colleagues are capable of this—of helping people change their lives for the better. I hope that more people will come to understand and accept themselves: trust in the world and in others, the ability to maintain relationships and find happiness within them, and the opportunity to realize their personal potential—all of this coming not only as a result of therapy, but also as a result of interacting with other people and the world around them.

Get to know your instrument and play your own tunes.

Then there’s no need to be upset that the world isn’t particularly kind, responsive, or friendly toward us. We get back what we put out there.

I believe and see that more and more people are realizing that the notes aren’t given to us, that we are the ones composing this melody, and that this improvisation is the result of how we engage with reality.

It’s up to us to decide whether to learn to play our own melody on our instrument or to keep copying others’.

I believe that people will stop copying other people’s sheet music without realizing that those notes were written for a different instrument.

Each of us plays a part; we all have our own melody in this orchestra. Unfortunately, we’re still learning to play.

For many people, their first experience of such “healthy” relationships comes only through a psychotherapist or counseling psychologist.

Sometimes all we need is to be understood and accepted—in all the complexity and simplicity of our fears, our pain, and our struggles; in all the intensity of our emotions and feelings, our hearty laughter, and our “too” loud voices. When all our “too”s simply become “just as they are.” When we don’t have to change ourselves or become someone else. When we can grow, change, mature, and gain wisdom, and be understood and seen for our full potential. When people believe in us and value us.

A syndrome of postponed life: Once I have a car, I’ll be able to drive to work in comfort

We’ll talk about that later. And we’ll definitely explore how to build a healthy relationship with your inner child so you can maintain joy and lightness in your daily life.

Another option: “If I had a good relationship and a loved one, I wouldn’t worry about anything and would live peacefully, enjoying life and working toward my goals.”

How?

Or: “When I have the money, I’ll buy a gym membership / hire a trainer / join a fitness studio, etc.”

Age isn’t just a number on your ID. Psychological age refers to the degree of maturity and emotional stability of a person, as well as their ability to assess a situation accurately and handle it appropriately. It can be difficult to develop these qualities on your own if your parents didn’t instill them in you, but it is possible and can be very rewarding.

We often limit ourselves with certain ideas or conditions in order to:

We don't want to grow up.

This is the language they use when speaking to us:

— our childhood traumas,
— our immature personality structures,
— our inner child, whom we have forgotten and for whom we do not take responsibility as adults.

— We’re on our own,
— a lot depends on us,
— it’s unlikely that anyone else will change anything for us or help us.

After all, it's so hard to accept that:

— avoiding the truth,
— shirking responsibility,
— refusing to accept the circumstances of one’s life.

Those are just excuses. The truth is, we either already have everything we need, or we can get it.

Limiting beliefs and attitudes that are always hidden in phrases like: “When… happens, then I’ll…,” “If only I had…, I would….”

No money? No time? No knowledge?

These days, there is a wealth of accessible, high-quality information on virtually any topic. With minimal effort, you can start doing what you want right now. So why don’t people do it? What’s holding them back?

What's stopping you from getting started right now?

We’re always waiting for something—some special external circumstances—before we start living.

What is your goal? What is preventing you from moving toward it right now?

Will I finally feel at peace after buying a car? Now I have to pay for parking—and, on top of that, find a spot, sit in traffic, and keep an eye on my gas mileage and the car’s condition.

Every achievement is followed by a new set of problems and challenges, and the situation improves only temporarily.

• H. Constellations (Specialists: Sergey Kononov; Elena Tretyakova)
• Weaving the Family Tree — a Knot Model of the Family (by Tanit Ma Kali)
• Hypnosis and Regression — no recommendations here, no significant results
• The Family Guardian Course (by Lyudmila Rosokha)
• Reconstructing the Family Tree (Specialist: Andrey Gennadievich Pravov)

• Valery Sinelnikov, *Healing Through Birth*
• Victoria Raidos, *Ancestor Worship*
• Michael Newton, *Journey of Souls*
• Dr. Brian Weiss, *Many Souls, Many Masters*

Where do We Come From: epigenetics, Karma, inheried Patterns, and Scenarios there are Passed Down Generations

My path and experience, 2013–2019:

Systemic family therapy. Doctors, anthropologists, mathematicians, and psychologists have developed theories regarding the structure of the family, its crises, and its feedback system.
The client is not an individual, but the entire family.

It’s important to remember: forewarned is forearmed!
When it comes to programs, scripts, and mental patterns, it’s often enough to recognize, realize, or see what’s happening—and then choose to take a different path, stop playing along, and avoid repeating the same mistakes!

Don’t rush to sign up for courses, jump into internships, or start looking for mentors! It’s best to start by researching, analyzing, and organizing information to develop a new perspective on the matter. To broaden your horizons—and, more importantly, to upgrade your worldview—I recommend turning to literature.

Family Constellations / Hellinger Constellations. A method of assisting individuals or organizations through what is known as the “reading” and “alteration” of information within the informational field. The method has not been scientifically validated; it lies at the intersection of psychotherapy, spiritual practice, and philosophy. Bert Hellinger is considered the founder of the method.

My recommendations:

Regression / Hypnosis.
Academic perspective: if a person’s worldview includes the concept of reincarnation (Hindus, Buddhists, etc.), they will easily be able to hallucinate such images during regression hypnosis.
If, however, they are, say, a staunch materialist, the likelihood of such an experience is extremely low. But, for obvious reasons, scientists do not venture to definitively assert the truth or falsity of what is seen during such a “review of past lives.”

Family constellations operate on the concept of hierarchy—a system of subordination (it is important to remember that hierarchy is hardwired into us at the instinctual level, which means this mechanism is constantly at work in our brains, even if we are not aware of it). For example, parents are always placed above their children because they are the ones who created the family. Constellations help restore the natural hierarchy of relationships.

Each of us is part of a family system (relationships with parents, brothers and sisters, uncles and aunts, grandparents, husbands, and wives). And when this system is disrupted (for example, when relatives “forget” about a family member or stop communicating), the balance in relationships is also disrupted. This disruption is involuntarily repeated by subsequent generations.

This type of therapy often involves role-playing. In some cases, family history is also taken into account, as it can be a source of current problems. Through therapy, the entire family and its system of relationships undergo a transformation, which in turn leads to changes in the behavior of its members.

Problems experienced by one family member indicate disrupted relationships within the family system. The psychotherapist seeks to identify the purpose of the symptom that prompted the therapy and examines how family members interact with one another.

Psychogenetics describes how hereditary factors influence the functioning of the mind in animals and humans. It examines the influence of genetic mechanisms on mental functioning, gender development, metabolism, and hormonal balance.

Genealogy is the study of family histories and family trees, organized in chronological order. Many people turn to it in an effort to understand certain twists of fate, innate abilities, or health conditions.

Genetics (from the Greek γενητως, meaning “generating” or “derived from”) is a branch of biology that studies genes, genetic variations, and heredity in organisms. That is precisely why doctors ask us: “Did your father have diabetes?”, “Is there a history of heart attacks in your family?”, “Cancer?”, and so on.

A clan (ethnology) is a group of people who trace their descent through a single line to a common ancestor.

Let’s first take a look at how this plays out in modern science.

Let’s note a few points that affect us and are related to this topic, but we won’t be discussing them:

• The subconscious and the unconscious
• An individual’s maturity and awareness
• The principle of systemicity
• Theories from quantum physics, reality management: “the observer influences the observed object,” etc.
• Ideas from “Reality Transurfing,” the movie “The Secret,” etc.
• Faith and religion

Where did the strength go? Why have I lost my energy?

Each coping mechanism is activated sequentially, much like shifting gears in a manual transmission. Each is designed to protect the sense of self when a person’s identity is not yet fully developed, when they are vulnerable, and when they are not ready to deal with the situation on their own.

Here, people pretend not to hear or see; they put off making decisions; there is a lack of interest, a sense of meaninglessness, a feeling of emptiness, and severe cases of alcohol or drug addiction.

When we don’t want to face our feelings (such as in complicated relationships with our parents), we avoid them by throwing ourselves into fanatical activities, keeping ourselves constantly busy, resorting to sarcasm, indifference, or detachment, withdrawing from relationships, hiding behind “important tasks,” or putting off conversations about unpleasant topics; we live by the principle that “everything is temporary” and “life is a game, so have fun.”

Through these built-in mechanisms, our psyche protects our ego—our sense of self—from “attacks” from the outside world, as well as from internal assaults by our subpersonalities. There are many voices within each of us, and to make sense of them, stay tuned to my blog or come in for a personal consultation.

We discover that a loved one has deceived or betrayed us. Let’s assume that the first three coping mechanisms failed—and we’ve fallen back on the fourth: physical numbness/freezing, stupor, breath-holding, closing the eyes/looking away, denial, apathy, exhaustion, loss of strength, numbness, coldness, hurt, shame, loss of self, bitterness, dissociation.

We don’t accept our situation at work. We feel we deserve better; we refuse to look at the facts objectively or view ourselves realistically.
The result is hatred, shouting, a desire to harm others, rage, stubbornness, hostility, malice, anger, revenge, disgust, envy, a desire to punish, irritation, cynicism, sarcasm, and so on.

We don’t accept the world as it is; there’s a lot about it we don’t like, and we don’t like living in it as it is. This is where resistance, protest, and struggle come in—the need to fight for a great cause, the pursuit of achievements and comforts, devaluation, gathering a group of like-minded people around oneself, restlessness, participating in various communities with the goal of “changing the world,” reinterpretation (inventing a different meaning) to escape the problem, the need for pity, drugs and alcohol to avoid dissatisfaction and find temporary comfort, the pursuit of power / money / pleasures.

What types of coping reactions are there?

There are many experiences we cannot bear, and so we do not process them through our psyche. In such cases, the psyche operates on the principle of a basic reflex—the instinct for self-preservation. It protects us from more intense experiences and helps preserve the ego.

This triggers our coping mechanisms (coping responses/strategies—the things people do to manage stress; this term encompasses cognitive, emotional, and behavioral strategies used to cope with the demands of daily life).

What can overwhelm the mind? Stress, lack of sleep, poor nutrition—all of these weaken the body and mind—so that’s one side of the issue: lifestyle. On the other side are all the things we can’t openly face and deal with.

You should know that the mind can become overloaded, and overload leads to exhaustion. We are constantly exposed to a vast amount of sensory stimuli and information from both the external and internal worlds. But let’s not get into the details of the brain and neural processes just yet.